Counseling is an intervention that can help individuals deal with the crisis by healing and offering support by reaching the core of the problem.
# Family and Child Counseling
# Premarital Counseling ( 3 days )
# Marriage Counseling
Starting counselling for may of us is really a freaky proposition. Why should we ?
Sue Patton Thoele “Deep listening is miraculous for both the listener and speaker. When someone receives us with open hearted, non-judging, intensely interested listening, our spirits expand. “
From the Birth on wards we enter relationships, firstly with our family and as we grow with friends and eventually we move into love relationships. These love relationships are the ones I (will) focus on, I am at anyone experiencing unhappy, unfulfilling or difficult times. Be assured, you are not alone in feeling this way. It may be that you sense a certain distance or friction between you and you partner, or that you no longer feel the deep of sense of.
May people live their lives in “Automatic Pilot” wake up go to work, quick lunch, meetings tight schedule, commuting, back home and social media, screen time and sleep. Some fine time for friendship and family but even the relationships can get into the old routine and patterns, without much attention or care.
We know from many studies that the right therapeutic relationship is vital to healing in counselling. This means that it is important to find the person, both in terms of personality fit and relevant experience deals with you fairly and ethically and is upfront and clear in dealing with any questions or concerns that you might have.
Many of my clients tell me that the experiences of being truly heard by another person is deeply healing experience.
It is often a life changing experience for a client to have the opportunity to explore their thoughts and feelings in a supportive safe, confidential and getting challenging space. I am sure that Dr. Ralph Nichols, “the father of the study listening was right when he said that most basic of all human needs is to understand and be understood. The best way to understand people is to listen to them”.
So, here I am to facilitate you to change your own and growth and most of that to make you understand and to be heard by your own people.
The term “COUNSELLING “is of American Origin by ROGERS. During World War II, the U.S. Military had a strong need for vocational placement and training. In the 1940s and 1950s the veteran’s administrations created a specially called “COUNSELLING PHYSCOLOGY “and Division of APA was formed. In today’s date the Counseling Physiology as a profession has expended and is not represented in numerous countries around the world. Counseling process refer to HOW or WHY Counseling happens and progresses.
The relationship between the counselor and the client is the feelings and attitude that a client and therapist have towards one another, and the manner in which those feelings and attitudes are expressed.
Counseling outcome measures might look at a general overview of symptoms, symptoms of specific disorders or positive outcomes, such as subjective well-being or quality of life.
Counseling is that process, that occurs when a client and counselor set a side time to explore difficulties which may include the stressful or emotional feelings of the client.
The act of helping the client to see things more clearly, possibility, different point of view. This can enable the client to focus on feelings, experiences or behaviors with a goal to facilitating positive change in client.
Counseling is NOT giving advice, been judgmental, attempting to sort out the problem of client or expecting or encouraging a client to behave in a way in which the counselor may have behaved when confronted with similar problems in their own life. It’s also not getting emotionally involved with the clients. The counselor neither judges, nor offer advice. The Counselor gives the client an opportunity to express difficult feelings such as anger, resentment, guilt and fear in confidential environment. The Counselor may encourage the client to examine parts of their life's that they may have found difficult or impossible to face before. There may be some exploration of child-wood experiences to though some light on why an individual reacts or responds in certain ways in given situations. This is often followed by considering ways in which client may change such behavior.
Effective Counseling reduces confusion, allowing the client to make effective decision leading to positive changes in their attitude and / or behavior. Effective Counseling is not advice giving and not acting on someone else behalf. The ultimate aim of counseling is to enable the client to make their own choices, reach their own decisions and to act upon them accordingly.
Marriage rates supposedly are on the decline. While it’s an oft repeated statistic that 50% of first marriage ends in divorce that has remained unchanged for past 30 years in west as compared to India. Divorce rate also varies with partners level of education, religious beliefs and many other factors.
When divorce does happen, it results in difficulties of adults as well as children. For adults it can be one of life most stressful life event. The decision to divorce often is met with ambivalence and uncertainty about future. If children are involved, they may experience negative effects such as denial, feelings of abandonment, anger, blame, guilt, preoccupation with reconciliation and acting out. When couple encounter problems or issues they may wander. When it is appropriate to seek marriage counselling. Here are seven good reasons.
1. communication has become negative
2. When one or both partners consider having an affair or one partner has had an affair,
3. When the couple seems to be “just occupying the same space”,
4. When the partners do not know how to resolve their differences
5. When one partner begins to act on negative feelings,
6. When the only resolution appears to be separation,
7. When a couple is staying together for the sake of their children.
Getting married is a huge deal. Marriage is an institution, means you commit yourself to loving and being with your spouse for rest of your life - in good as well as bad times. It implies that you are already to take the plunge and start a new life with the one you love.
Pre-marriage counselling is a great way to help couples prepare for their marriage.
As investing in your relationship before you are married will reap rewards for many years to come.
Many newly engaged couples are taking charge of their upcoming marriage by seeking couples therapy to strengthen their relationship. The best premarital counselling topics to discuss are ones that will make couples feel prepared, that open lines of communication and that talk about potential problems couples may encounter in the future. Go into your marriage feeling prepared and confident that you can take on any problems concerning sex, finances, family obligations, children, work and even infidelity.
Here are 10 ways that will help couple before marriage to strengthen their relationship.
1. learn to communicate
2. Discuss past issues,
3. Gel to know one another,
4. Discuss potential problems,
5. Learn to solve problems,
6. Discuss expectations,
7. Comfortably discuss finances,
8. Strengthen your relationship,
9. Have an outsider’s perspective,
10. Prevent divorce.
Family and child counselling
Here the importance will be given to the child. Keeping the child, the center points all the evolutions will done to make the family understand the issues what child is going through with his family. Find to make the family realize the importance of their child abilities and disabilities to make the child into a better human being.
Children and adolescents often have difficulties taking the course to study, family unity, losing their individuality and attachment to other outside family members or unrealistic expectations, confused and conflicted children. So, her in the family and child counselling helps in.
Normal results vary, but in good circumstance, they include greater insight, increased differentiation of individual family members, improved communication within the family, loosening of previously automatic behavior patterns and resolutions of the problem.
Family and child counselling therapy bring parents, siblings and extended family members such as aunts, uncles and grandparents into one process. Family plays a very important role in our emotions, spiritual and physical development since each individual in the family system impacts and is impacted by others. This family and child counselling can help children coping with every day worries such as exam stress, relationship issues with friends, family members and teachers. It can also help with self-harm concerns, grief, depression and anxiety and learning difficulties.
Common child related issues that can be managed with the support of counselor include:
Depression and anxiety,
With the help of family therapy all these can be solved by counselling. Sometimes it’s just good to talk to someone objective, other times more guidance may be needed.
These the areas in which I intervene with a motive to give a helping hand to my clients.